Loving Connection
Connecting with ourselves and others
We find ourselves in interesting times. For many, a time of confusion, uncertainty and challenges on multiple levels. What does all this create for us as social beings with a survival need for love and connection at both an individual, and a collective level.
I invite you to take time to sit with yourself, to tune in, to recognise and acknowledge how you feel. What are your fears, concerns and beliefs and how are you experiencing these. Do you have many thoughts racing through your mind? Thoughts that are showing up as feelings and sensations in your body?
* What does this feel like for you? - a sensation, pain, numbness, disconnection …
* What is it telling you?
* Where has it come from?
* Is there a memory, a story, a meaning attached to it?
What if you could be curious and open to exploring within. To activate your innate guidance system, your road map to understanding what you are experiencing and why.
For some, these global events may invoke something much deeper, a memory, a feeling, a knowing, an emotion arising from very early in your life. Maybe it was there when you were born or from early childhood, or maybe it is something more recent that is coming up for you and adding to the uncertainty and concerns.
What can you do to guide you through this time? A plan. A strategy.
Consider the resources you already have. Maybe you need to remind yourself of these. A list, a journal, a picture, a note somewhere you can see it. For some it may be time out with another who understands. Someone you connect and feel safe with. To hold, hug, have time with. For others, meditation, yoga, Chi Gong, sunshine, fresh air, or connecting with nature, trees, grass, the sea, a river, or animals may give you the peacefulness you are seeking. The chance to consider what else is possible, to allow new thoughts, new feelings to arise. Maybe your resource is prayer, or guidance from a higher being.
What else can you do? (You and your children)
* If you are pregnant, have a small baby or child, tune in with your little one. Talk to them with love in a soft gentle soothing voice and let them know that you are processing something that is not theirs and they are ok and safe.
* Learn and use EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) a stress releasing process that quietens your mind.
* Bring in your colour for safety, to breathe or wrap around you like a snuggly warm blanket.
* Breathe in for a count of 4 and out for 6, a breath pattern that sends a calming message to your autonomic nervous system.
* If you feel alone place your hands over and tune into your heart. Bring your loved one (s) into your mind. Feel the love and connection. Send it to your loved one and receive it as it returns.
* Raise your vitality with plenty of water and foods that nurture and nourish your body. Rest, sleep when you need to. Exercise in the way that you love.
* Look for and express gratitude for everything you have and are.
* Find what excites you, something that ‘makes your heart sing’ and practice it every day.
* Read and share inspirational words and books such as “The Invisible String’, a beautiful ‘heart connecting’ children’s book.
* If you or your child, elderly, loved one …. need a physical reminder, create a love heart for each to have when not physically together. As you each tune in you can feel the magic and know you are held in connection and love. Be curious and play with this. Trust and love yourself.
When we settle our thoughts and find peace within, our immune and nervous systems regulate into an ‘all is well’ feeling that is essential for our health and well being. As we raise our own energy to a higher vibration, together as one, we raise the love and collective consciousness for all.
Gaylene Hansen
This article is published in ‘The Inspired Guide’ September 2020
Photo by Tim Bish